There’s KINDNESS in Coffee

There’s KINDNESS in CoffeeAs we all know mornings can be rough and a morning coffee is essential for some.  I am NOT a morning person, and therefore, require coffee to kick start my day.  I’m sure some of you can relate.

What began as an incredibly crazy morning – kids missed the bus (dare I say, again?), lunches weren’t made, and I had no time for breakfast, let alone a cup of coffee. After racing out the door and miraculously getting my kids to school on time, I had less than five minutes grab a quick cup of coffee on my way to work.

As I opened the door to Dunkin’ Donuts, my heart sank. The line was long.  I now had only 4 minutes to get my coffee.  I pondered leaving, but the smell of my awaiting “cup of sanity” begged me to stay.  I gave in, praying the line would move quickly.

With 2 minutes to go, I finally was next in line.  However, the woman in front of me was taking quite a while to decide what flavor she wanted in her coffee, and I was growing equally impatient and panic stricken that I would be late for work.

Just as I was about to suggest a flavor to speed things along, I heard her scream, “WHAT? WHO DID?” She then turned around pointing to me and others behind me asking, “Was it you? Was it you?” All of us shook our heads in bewilderment.

It was what followed that turned my morning, from a hectic and crazy mess, to a joy filled and happy one – coffee or no coffee. I heard the words,  “Well, then I’ll pay for her!” Yes, that wonderfully, indecisive woman had just offered to pay for my coffee, as the person in front of her had just done.  I thought, “Now this was getting fun!” I wanted in on this, so I offered to pay for the person behind me, he then offered to pay for the person behind him, and this continued until the end of the line.

My cup of coffee tasted wonderful that morning. It definitely hit the spot…right in my heart. I was in awe of the human spirit. One random act of kindness, by one stranger, set up a chain of pay if forward events, which affected five people on a dreary cold morning in Warren, New Jersey. Each one of us left that store smiling and feeling grateful for the one person who spread kindness, by his good deed, and his example.

See below for ideas on how you, too, can make someone’s day with your Random Acts of Kindness.

Random Acts of Kindness Ideas for Adults and Kids:

  • Send a friendly letter in the mail to someone who could use some cheer
  • Pay for a stranger’s coffee or groceries when at the store
  • Help a neighbor or elderly person bring in his/her mail or groceries
  • Let someone merge in front of you when on the road
  • Bring pizza or treats to your local EMT, police, or fire department
  • Put a quarter in a parking meter that is running out of time
  • Give someone a compliment
  • Donate old clothes or books to underprivileged schools

Choose Kind,
Christina Mancino
Assembly Leader

Wear The Cape’s First School Assembly of the New School Year

Wear the Cape Kids School AssemblyWe were thrilled to bring our first assembly of the school year to Our Lady of Peace School, in New Providence, New Jersey.  We send a heartfelt thank you to Mr. Castillo, his staff, and his amazing students for allowing us the opportunity to share our Better Than That message.

Mr. Castillo summed up our message perfectly when he told his students that our message is a very simple one: be kind all the time.  Thank you, Mr. Castillo for wearing your Cape and asking your students and staff to do so, as well.

For further information on how to bring a Hero Assembly to your school, please email leighann@wearthecapekids.com.

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My Very Own Cape Kid

Ann Ciccarelli and her son, Luke, during Appalachia Help weeks for 2016
Ann Ciccarelli and her son, Luke, during Appalachia Help weeks for 2016

Today, I write from the perspective of a Cape Kid’s Mom.  Just over a year ago, my son, Luke had just returned from a week-long service trip through St. Patrick’s Catholic Church in Chatham to Preston County, West Virginia.  Throughout this service week, he and about 35 other young people and parent chaperones helped the people of Preston County with home repair (most absolutely necessary) as well as support within their community.  When Luke returned, he expressed that he couldn’t wait to go back next year.  I truly saw a different young man come back on July 1, 2015 than the kid that left on June 25, 2015.  I had to know more.

When the time arose for sign-ups for the Appalachia Help weeks for 2016, Luke asked me if I would be willing to chaperone.  Did my 17-year-old son really want to spend a week with Mom?!?!?  I was jumping on this opportunity before he could even finish the question!  I wasn’t sure what I was getting myself into but as the week approached, I was starting to get really excited.  So I took the shopping list and went out and purchased all of my tools, proper clothing, gear, air mattress, etc. Luke had this part down and worried aboutLuke Ciccarelli during Appalachia Help weeks for 2016 it all the day before we left.  I, on the other hand, prepared for weeks.  As June 26, 2016 arrived, I thought..here we go!  After mass at St. Patrick’s, the vans and cars were loaded and off we went on the six-hour ride to Preston County, West Virginia.  As we arrived in the town of Rowlesburg, I instantly noticed the poverty and simple living.  I wondered to myself how these teenagers from Chatham and it’s surrounding areas were going to handle this.  Were they judging?  Scared?  Nervous?

Well let me tell you, this was a life-changing week for me!  Not only was my 46-year old self changed from the stories of the people of Rowlesburg and it’s surrounding towns but what really blew my mind was these youngsters.  I was so incredibly blown away with their passion, excitement, relationships with each other and teamwork, but most importantly THEIR COMPASSION!  Their tolerance, acceptance and LOVE for the people that we helped was nothing short of amazing!  I watched boys and girls working together with adults to make the lives of these amazing people in West Virginia better.

Luke Ciccarelli during Appalachia Help weeks for 2016They worked hard physically (who knew these boys and girls were so handy with saws, hammers, nail guns, sheet rock, roofing, etc…), but the emotional connections that they made with the people at the homes where they “worked” was just incredible.  The friendships they have made with people so completely “different” from them yet so very much the same warms my heart.  As they reflected each night on their days of work, each and every story was just incredible.  There is no question that all of these teens came back different from when they left but after 2 years of my son, Luke really putting it all out there emotionally and physically for others I can honestly say that he not only “wears the cape” but I believe it will be a permanent part of his wardrobe.

This crazy world that we live in these days constantly is rearing it’s ugly head of bullying, racism, inequality, profiling and unfortunately I could go on and on…but the change starts with the young people in this world.  I can only hope that the good work that Luke and his peers are doing will be infectious and this Cape Kid will take his cape and run with it!  I couldn’t be more proud of my very own Cape Kid!

xo  Ann Ciccarelli