Let’s Grow Our Mindset!

Grow our mindsetThere is a popular view among educators in regards to intelligence that students should be pushed to adopt a Growth Mindset. Mindset is the concept that everyone holds a personal “theory” of themselves, as explained by Dr. Carol Dweck, author of Mindset: The New Psychology of Success.

According to Dweck, there are two mindsets: Fixed and Growth. A Fixed Mindset is one where people feel that their basic qualities, such as talent and intelligence, are “fixed” and, therefore, unable to be improved upon.

One with a Fixed Mindset may say, “I can’t do that because I’m not good at it, or I’m dumb,” causing him/her to give up easily, ignore feedback, avoid challenges, and develop anxiety around fears.

On the other hand, a Growth Mindset allows one to believe that he/she can achieve whatever is desired by building the basic qualities that they have, through hard work and guided assistance.

Developing a Growth Mindset is crucial for both young and old, as it helps a person to embrace challenges, give 100% effort, become inspired by other people’s successes, and learn from feedback.

As educators and parents, it is our responsibility to help mold a positive Growth Mindset in our children and students. Below are some examples of how you can help your children build their Growth Mindset and assist them in creating a positive frame of mind, necessary to become successful and happy.

Below we have listed several Growth Mindset Goals for you to use with your students, children….and even yourself!

Growth Mindset Goals:

  1. Embrace the word “YET”: Dweck encourages all to add the word “yet” to our conversations with children. When you hear them say, “I can’t,” follow up with a “yet”. This allows our brains to understand that, although we cannot do something at this time, with hard work and patience, we very well may master the task at hand.
  2. Accept Mistakes: When one makes a mistake or fails at a task, applaud the effort AND use the event as a teachable moment to gain wisdom on what could have been done differently to be successful. Failure often leads children and adults to give up; teach your child that making mistakes and failures are just bumps on the road to success.
  3. Praise Properly: When you praise your child, do not compliment their ability or talent, but rather their effort, success, and even failure (see #2). Telling your child she is smart or talented in a specific area can limit her desire to challenge herself in another. This has the same effect in the form of negative praise. Stating, “Don’t worry, math is not your thing” or “You can quit gymnastics if you can’t do that cartwheel” have a negative impact on a child’s outlook, shaping a Fixed Mindset and causing them to believe that they do not have to try hard or challenge themselves to succeed.
  4. Ask Open-Ended Questions: Rather than dismiss a task where your child is having difficulty with a passive comment, encourage your child’s Growth Mindset by asking open-ended questions such as, “How can you change what you are doing to make it work better?”
  5. Rephrase your questioning:  Rather than state, “I see you are having trouble with this,” you can say, “I like how you are working diligently to get the correct answer; what else can you do to solve the problem?”

Helping our kids with their phones

cell phoneThe decision to give your child a cell phone is not an easy one to make. Personal cell phones for children are an important responsibility for both parents and children – one that needs to be taken with utmost care.

In our society today, we have heard too many instances of children misusing their cell phones, many times without realizing the devastating consequences their “cyber behavior” has to other children and their families. As parents, we need to “step up our game” to help guide and support our kids on proper cell phone use.

How do we do this? Thanks to our friends at familiesmanagingmedia.com, we can have some insight as to when our children are ready for their own phone and devices, and how we can help them to be responsible for safely using their technology.

Mary Beth Forte, a supporter of Wear The Cape, recently reached out to us to share a letter that she and her husband wrote to their daughter, which she adapted from a template found on familiesmanagingmedia.com. The letter provides boundaries for cell phone use, including texting, taking and posting of photos, and the use of social media.

The reason for this letter is summed up at the end of the Forte’s first paragraph, “…we love you more than we can say and want to keep you safe!” We urge all parents to create a cell phone and device policy with their children. Please, talk with your child about what he/she is experiencing via text messages and calls. Make sure your child is appropriately using his/her device. . . and ultimately, let them know how much you love them and want to keep them safe.

To see a sample of the Forte’s adaptation of the cell phone rules letter click here.

In Kindness,

The Wear The Cape Team

Cape Kids with Extra Big Hearts – A call to Volunteer

National Volunteer MonthApril is National Volunteer Month – a month dedicated to helping others through volunteering. In honor of this special month, and to help live out our mission of spreading kindness and helping others, Wear The Cape organized a very special volunteer activity that was open to all kids looking to make a difference.

Wear The Cape collaborated with The Bounce Factory in Warren, New Jersey to create a fun-filled and meaningful volunteer experience for both young and old. Our Cape Kids spent an early evening assisting both children and adults during a dedicated bounce time for those with developmental disabilities, called Gentle Bounce.

Staff and caregivers praised our Cape Kids for their selflessness and care. There were lots of smiles and hearts were filled, due to the service of our Cape Kids. We are incredibly proud of all of the young children who gave their time to serve and name you all our Cape Kids for the month of April for your selflessness and heroism. Congratulations to Samantha Errico, Tom Errico, Charlotte Errico, Niko Errico, Michael Mancino, Sarah Husain, Sara Allian, Nadine Greybek, Lexie Mancino, Nick Mancino, Kayla Cullinane, and Kate Allian on a job well done!

Thank you to Cheryl Taylor, owner of The Bounce Factory and her staff, for your guidance and support, and for opening your doors to those in need each week.

Keep your eyes open for more volunteer opportunities from Wear The Cape in the future.