“Brave” by Sara Bareilles

Brave
by Sara Bareilles

You can be amazing

You can turn a phrase into a weapon or a drug
You can be the outcast
Or be the backlash of somebody’s lack of love
Or you can start speaking up
Nothing’s gonna hurt you the way that words do
And they settle ‘neath your skin
Kept on the inside and no sunlight
Sometimes a shadow wins
But I wonder what would happen if you

Say what you wanna say
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave

With what you want to say
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave

I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I wanna see you be brave

I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I wanna see you be brave

Everybody’s been there, everybody’s been stared down
By the enemy
Fallen for the fear and done some disappearing
Bow down to the mighty
Don’t run, stop holding your tongue
Maybe there’s a way out of the cage where you live
Maybe one of these days you can let the light in
Show me how big your brave is

Say what you wanna say
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave

With what you want to say
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave

Innocence, your history of silence
Won’t do you any good
Did you think it would?
Let your words be anything but empty
Why don’t you tell them the truth?

Say what you wanna say
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave

With what you want to say
And let the words fall out
Honestly I wanna see you be brave

I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I wanna see you be brave

I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I wanna see you be brave

I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I wanna see you be brave

I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you
I just wanna see you

Special Cheer Team Uniquely Inspires from the Sidelines

Guest blog iconWe are thrilled to share with you today’s guest blog from a remarkable lady named Debbie House. Debbie is the organizer and head coach of the Contender cheer team, a unique group of special needs cheerleaders. The team was formed three years ago with the five girls pictured below. A year later, the squad increased to eight, and this year there are 10 team members. The girls cheer at Hunterdon Huskies home games at Union Forge Park in High Bridge, NJ.

 

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From Debbie House:

You know, sometimes all you need is twenty seconds of insane courage. Just literally twenty seconds of just embarrassing bravery. And I promise you, something great will come of it. 

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I waited nervously at the field for the girls who were coming to see just what this was all about.  Eventually they all arrived and, for the first of many times, I saw the smiles of the five girls who would become the very first Hunterdon Huskies Contender Cheer Team, a squad for kids with special needs. We loved each other, and we loved cheerleading together from that first day forward.

I am the lucky voice for the team. Those first five teenage girls, with varying special needs, joined a team that never existed, coached by a woman they had never met, with a game schedule that was incomplete, and all part of an organization that had never had a special needs athlete before. I can’t help but admire the courage it must have taken the girls and their families to even consider being on the team.

Kids with special needs don’t always get the warm fuzzy welcome we would hope, and their parents are full-time advocates often fighting a system that doesn’t always work for their child, often settling for what they are offered. Most of the extracurricular activities that these kids previously participated in were only for kids with special needs – this was definitely not going to be that – this was cheerleading, the sport with arguably the most stereotypical participants and parents.

What I asked these families to perceive, envision, and believe in was something they were unfamiliar with – yet they came to the field that first day. They believed me, and they took a leap of faith that most would probably not. Why? For the love of the sport. For love of a body in motion that may not necessarily present the most skilled maneuver, but nonetheless, is a body in motion. It’s simple, if you ask: The girls just want to be like other girls their age.

The members of my team don’t even realize the walls they break down simply by putting on their uniforms. They possess the courage to be put in a position of vulnerability without concern for criticism. Hundreds of people have watched them perform. Hundreds of people have been and will continue to be changed by seeing what these girls can do – hearts become lighter, edges blur, and tears flow. It becomes clear that while judges’ scores may be immediately important, the reality is that enjoying what you’re doing needs to be more important. And perfection is relative. If you ask any member of any audience that has seen this team perform, they will say they were PERFECT.

They are a team of ten now. Ten ambassadors. Not just ambassadors for the special needs community, but ambassadors for every person who ever wanted to try something they weren’t sure they were good at. And trying with 100% determination so that, whatever the outcome, trying is the victory.

Their courage and enthusiasm is paving the way for other teams to emerge, and for other girls with special needs to join in and cheer, and be part of something completely amazing.

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Another Reason to Celebrate Diversity

“We must learn to live together as brothers or perish together as fools.” – Martin Luther King, Jr.

Today we recognize the man behind the words above. As the third Monday of January reminds us, focusing on what unites us instead of what divides us makes our lives happier, more peaceful, and more successful…a lesson evident from an early age. According to the National School Climate Center:

“…school climate is larger than any one person’s experience. When people work together, a group process emerges that is bigger that any one person’s actions. A comprehensive assessment of school climate includes major spheres of school life such as safety, relationships, teaching and learning, and the environment as well as larger organizational patterns (e.g. from fragmented to shared; healthy or unhealthy). How we feel about being in school and these larger group trends shape learning and student development. Peer-reviewed educational research has consistently demonstrated that a positive school climate is associated with academic achievement, effective risk prevention efforts and positive youth development.”

Teaching kids to not only accept others for their differences, but to celebrate diversity among their peers means that the group functions better overall, benefiting each student on an individual level. And the value goes beyond time spent in the classroom. A “positive school climate fosters youth development and learning necessary for a productive, contributing and satisfying life in society.”

How Can You Help at Home?

  • Communicate to your kids that everyone deserves to feel socially, emotionally and physically safe.
  • Explain the importance of respecting AND engaging others.
  • Provide first-hand experiences, such as caring for pets or looking out for younger siblings, to allow kids to think of themselves as helpful, caring people.
  • Get involved in your child’s school and activities to encourage policies and programs that celebrate diversity of talents, interests, age, race, income, background, appearance, cultures, etc.

Check out these “14 Unexpected Responses to Hatred Show That Humans Do Sometimes Get It Right” for more inspiring stories of people looking beyond their differences to find common ground, fertile for a positive outcome. Make it a great week!

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